Bitcoin (and other cryptocurrencies)

I have been accepting Bitcoin payments for quite some time but I also now accept other cryptocurrencies such as Ethereum, Bitcoin Cash, ZCash and Litecoin for in person payments and deposits. If you don’t know what these things are either a) don’t worry I am still taking cash or b) let Google be your friend 🙂 If you are interested in paying by another crypto that’s not mentioned, just ask. I’m generally happy with any that is covered by Shapeshift through Coinomi (Monero isn’t listed currently). I’ll probably keep referring to Bitcoin as it’s more well known and there’s some nifty services for it but if you scored some Bitcoin Cash at the fork I’m happy to be paid with it 🙂

I haven’t really posted about *why* I’m fond of bitcoin et al. Some of the reasons are sexwork specific, some are more from a wider set of motivations.

  • Credit card companies – Visa and Mastercard have a LOT to say about what I can and can’t do. It’s nice to be able to tell them to stuff their morals and judgements
  • Clip and camming sites – to get around the high risk merchant account annoyances I instead use some hosting services (the online payment option for deposits is an example here) that handle payments and they will take, at a a minimum, 30% of my income. Similar are clip sites such as clips4sale and ManyVids and camming sites such as streamate and myfreecams they will take a much bigger cut, even up to 70%
  • Bank deposits – I can give my bank account details for a direct or ATM deposit but the bank tellers are very likely to say the account name (my real name) to confirm you are paying the right person if you go over the counter
  • Scams – bank or credit card transfers are reversible and you better believe there are those who will request a reversal or a chargeback after the booking
  • Safety – getting paid in cash is all well and good but how safe would you feel walking to the bank with $4000 in your wallet after a weekend booking? Or even having your workplace thought of as a target for thieves?
  • Politeness – it can be awkward (although I am skilled in managing this) to hand over cash and wait while I count it before the booking can start. Scanning a qr code with your phone seems so much more civilised
  • Simplicity – deposits are the way of the escort future and using bitcoin for this is so simple it makes me nearly cry with joy when compared to the stuffing around with other options
  • Libertarianism – this is probably deserving of a post on its own. I am happy to pay tax and contribute to society but I am very happy to be outside of, albeit only partly, the centralised economic system

September update

Hello friends and lovers

I recently had an injury to my arm from which I am recovering from well. I am working as normally with some small modifications for the rest of September.

  • Corsets – if you want me to wear one there might be a extra fee because I will have to get a co worker to lace me in
  • Stockings – let me know if you like them and I will wear them. I just need to allow more time getting ready to get them on, if you don’t request them I probably won’t have them on
  • Bondage – I am unable to wear handcuffs or be tied with hands together. Other tieing positions may be fine or just need to be time limited, we can discuss this but should be easy to work around
  • I can’t lift heavy things with my left arm
  • Dinner dates – fine dining might be a bit messy as I’m mostly eating with one hand although I think this won’t be for more than another week. OI know most restaurants in Hobart and I should be able to find a menu that both of us can enjoy. Or we could cook in my kitchen!

Massaging, handjobs, sex positions, cuddling are all completely fine and continuing as normal.

Tantra

I was recently on the radio and we touched briefly on the subject of what is Tantra. It is often talked about in terms of sex, long sex and really long orgasms but there can be more to it. Tantra is one of those things that you can make it as much or as little as you want. It has different beginnings or schools and has evolved into different things in modern times so it is really quite hard to define completely in a simple sentence but at its heart it is about balancing opposites.

I mentioned this episode of The Spirit Of Things on air, it is a really interesting listen about the wider ethos of Tantra from some diverse backgrounds and I really recommend it if you are interested… Tantra: More than sex

Metadata update

If you are a long time listener you will remember the blog post I wrote a couple of years ago about the metadata retention scheme. Well folks it has arrived and I need to update the old post with a few things

Signal is my preferred messaging app but I also have Wickr, Telegram and Whatsapp as well as my Twitter DM’s are open (you don’t need to follow me to send me a message on Twitter).

I did not mention VPN’s previously but they will be a useful tool. I have used both PIA and Vyper and they are both good. Vyper has the added bonus of working in countries that block VPN’s which is an added bonus if you travel to the likes of China which is a very specific thing I know but a bonus is a bonus hey 🙂

The chaos of touring

Here is a timeline of events for my last tour to Launceston on the 22nd and 23rd. It is not unusual and I’m not at all annoyed at clients but thought it would be interesting to see behind the scenes if you aren’t a touring escort and are wondering what I do with my time.

Background: I travel to Launceston about once a month but not on a fixed date. I wait until I get some requests and plan around them. Launceston is a small market and I’ve found from previous experience this approach is the only way I cover my costs let alone make a profit. I do outcalls on all dates, incalls are only available after check in time on the first day to just before checkout on the second day because I work from hotels when I’m not in Hobart. These are only the enquiries related to the Launceston tour. The day before I was due to be there I was flooded with fake bookings for Hobart on the 22nd.

Early March 

Receive enquiry #1 for Launceston. They will contact me to confirm

10th 

Receive enquiry #2 for Launceston on the morning of the 23rd. Booking is made and that takes my availability for late morning on the second day

I set tour dates as the 22nd and 23rd

Enquiry #3 Client I have seen before requests an extended booking on the evening of the 22nd but will confirm early next week.

Receive enquiry #4 for Launceston. I confirm. They book. I request a deposit. I have to modify the deposit page on my website to provide a method they can use. About 3 hours work including research and communication. This takes my earliest availability for the first day

All enquiries early this week are told I’m probably booked out but to check early next week

16th

#3 lets me know he can’t make it

Adjust twitter, Scarlet Blue, website, Cracker to say I am now available on the evening of the 22nd

19th-20th

Turn down 4 hours of work in Hobart because I will be in Launceston

21st

Receive enquiry #4 for extended booking on the evening of the 22nd. Booking accepted, I was tired and didn’t request a deposit.

Change twitter, website, cracker to say I am no longer available for this tour

Enquiry #5 for Launceston booking that evening. I am in Hobart

22nd

Enquiry #4 cancels

Change twitter, website, cracker to say I am now available again in the evening

Enquiries #6, #7 classic timewater

Enquiry #8 for services I don’t offer and wanting to know where I am staying. I don’t answer

Enquiry #9 for booking now but I am eating dinner

23rd

Enquiries #10, #11, #12 for bookings in Launceston while I am driving back to Hobart

I never heard from enquiry #1 again. I had two bookings. I covererd my hotel and travel costs but lost more by being away from Hobart and did not make my budget (to pay rent, bills, mortgage) that week.

Thank you

I’ve had a little bit of a blip. I’ve blogged about depression before and talked about it many times. And so yes I’ve had a little bit of a blip. I’m saying a little bit because I was still able to function for the most part and I’ve seen the finality of the severe end of the scale and don’t want to diminish the suffering that is happening for the people who are there. But I thought I’d like to describe what it was I went through.
There was no good or beauty in the things I tried to do. Internally all I could see were faults and negatives. I was doing *everything* wrong. I thought I was not up to par in bookings despite the amazing feedback I was getting from clients old and new. I couldn’t shoot new content because I couldn’t see the merit in any photo or video I took. For example I thought the video this still is from was irredeemably awful. I nearly threw it out and it certainly wasn’t useable. I could not see any merit in it at all, the angles were bad, the lighting was awful, I was woeful. (I’ve since edited it and it’s actually one of my favorites!). At work I was presented immaculately and my apartment was sparkling. I smiled and laughed and did actually enjoy myself but I did not have the energy to do this enough. At home my animals were cared for and adored, I was not. I crawled into a puddle and stayed there.

So I want to say thank you to the people around me, family, friends and clients. You do not realise it but you were all, without exception, wonderful. Just by being you with your own ups and downs, highs and lows, laughter and tears. If I ever really need help I have professional support systems in place, so please don’t ever worry and don’t ever feel like you need to treat me differently. I love you all and I’m good now xx

Be yourself

When I get asked what is the best way to present myself if I want to make a booking I say just be yourself. If I have declined you as a client it is not a judgement of your worthiness. I have no boundaries based on class, socioeconomic status, race, religion or political affiliations (with the caveat that I am still not accepting clients who are part of federal politics until you start treating asylum seekers with humanity).
I use the way you approach me as a way to decide if I can work with you to provide the service you are seeking. I am not going to waste my energy and good humour or your time and money. In a similar vein just because I advertise my services are available this does not mean I am required to accept you. I can choose who I spend intimacy with and who I allow into my private space. So by being yourself it allows me to begin to decide, not if you have the qualities I desire but if I can be what you are looking for.

Beautiful things

A collation of things I have loved recently. Including dot points because I love them too.

 

The best Flying Circus

Hi Blog, it’s been awhile. I’ve been cheating on you with Twitter.

I made a big call on twitter recently and named what I thought the best Monty Python Flying Circus sketch is. Avail yourself here and behold https://youtu.be/5qfauCJ_BsM

So why would I say this one and not the eternal favourites Dead Parrot or Cheese Shop? Not even Ministry of Silly Walks? Because the fathers of British surrealist humour (the grandfathers being The Goon Show, naturally) have taken their classic pepperpot lady, who is completely nonplussed by a stranger in wet weather gear bursting through her door while she stuffs a chicken with household items, and let’s her narrate the story of her house not being a lifeboat which she later goes on to completely falsify by going out to buy cakes on the lifeboat while the sailors are trying to deal with the new reality of their lifeboat not existing. Fucking genius.

But there’s also the quantum physics of it, what is our reality? Does our world exist if it’s not observed. My world is different to your world because the way we view it shapes it. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Observer_(quantum_physics)

Or does it? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Observer_effect_(physics)

And on a more personal note don’t you just love that feeling of lying in someone’s arms and the outside world just disappearing? Maybe it doesn’t disappear though, you could be on a lifeboat.

Selfishness

The topic of selfishness has come up often in the last couple of weeks for me. And you’ll be pleased to know I’m not going to launch into a rant about how bad it is 🙂

No! Selfishness can be a good and healthy thing. Have you ever felt guilty for making time to do something you physically or emotionally needed? Of course you have, we all have. We are taught that the kids come first, that the family is more important than the individual, that the status quo must be maintained, we must do our bit for society. But I firmly believe that the flight attendants have it right, you need to put your own oxygen mask on before helping others. You can’t help anyone if you are passed out from lack of oxygen.